Yes, I too have been there. You have done your absolute best as a leader and yet there is still someone out there who is feeling negatively about you.
I can remember one of the first times this happened to me as a leader. I was speaking with a colleague who had more experience as a leader and he told me “Donna Marie, you can’t take it personally.”
I was aghast. “What do you mean, it is personal, what I do is personal, this means a lot to me!” Fast forward twenty years and I am writing nearly the same thing in this message to you.
Here is my advice:
1.) When people are unkind or nasty to and/or about you it says more about them than it says about you.
2.) Don’t burn bridges with these people because you never know when your paths will cross again. It is possible that this person may be able to help your students or staff in the future.
3.) Harboring hard feelings toward people will only serve to make you feel terrible.
4.) Practicing grace and forgiveness will allow you to truly move on from the situation. There will be no anxiety or hard feelings about the person or the situation. Trust me when I say that when you are able to forgive, show people grace, and move on from a difficult situation, you are doing the absolute best thing for you.
So, the next time you are in a situation like this instead of allowing your “reptile brain” to take over; breathe deeply, provide grace to those who hurt you, forgive them for their actions, and put it behind you.
I promise this will make a huge difference in your life and your leadership!
In friendship, love, and leadership,